DRN'r hurting !

BunduBasher

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(posted with his permission!) KelvinKDX, Jim is going through a divorce right now, and is in need of some encouragement, friendly advice, and general upliftment. I spoke to him last week, and he is pretty down and heartbroken. Jim is a DRN veteran and has attended all the Spodefests and DirtWeeks.

Jim, buddy, all I can say is, hang on in there. Share with us, I am sure we can lift your spirits.
 
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I'm SORRY to hear this Jim. I won't try to express any words of wisdom. I know this has got to be very hard on you and can just say... we're here. Hang in there bro.
 

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Jim I hate seeing these posts no matter what the background is. No words of wisdom or unsolicited advice to give- just want to say hang in there, make sure you are doing the right thing and I am here if you need something.
Better days will come but it may take some turns down dim alleys to get to them
 
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Jim, sorry for what you're going through, I've been there myself. I hope you don't mind me sharing with you what a friend of mine shared with me during my ordeal.

It's called Recovery, letting go.

To "let go" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.
To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.
To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To "let go" is to admit power lessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To "let go" is not to care for, but care about.
To "let go" is not to fix, but be supportive.
To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but allow others to affect their on destinies.
To "let go" is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To "let go" is to fear less and love more.

One last thing my friend told me was to never forget who I am.

These are things we all know yet it seemed to do me good when I read, it helped me get my head back on the right place. Keep your chin up. :thumb:
 
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Jim, I don't know you or most of the others here very well but, based on what I have read, there are few better places to get support and advice, no matter what the nature of the problem.

Take care and know that you are not alone. :thumb:
 

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Sorry to hear it, Jim. If you need advice or a sympathetic ear, I can be reached here at the Divorce Recovery Network.
 

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Sorry to hear! :( Hang in there it'll get better! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help...
 

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Jim:

Words don't really work, they are but hollow expressions of what I and others want to say. Take care, know that you are in our hearts and minds and ask if there is anything we can do.

Call ...

Tony
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that. Keep looking for the silver lining--there always is one, no matter how dark the clouds are.
 

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Jim, keep your head up.

Divorce is a painful thing for all concerned, including your friends.
I wish there was something I could say or do to help.
 

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Jim, tried to come up with something wise, but drew a blank.

I still remember when you helped Stan out @ DW02 by rejetting his KDX, putting on some new reeds and a good pipe, all during the Bonfire, he was so excited about it. Then @ DW03, you supplied him some carb needles for the KTM. (BTW did he ever send the replacements back to you?)

All said, you are a heck of a nice Guy, and time will heal the wounds.
 

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Oh man...  I hate that.  Jim, you've got our number and you know where we live.  If you need anything, let me and Mandy know!

 
 

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Hang in there, man I don't imagine anything I can say will help much, but if ya get feeling low let us help. (and go riding, it's bound to help)