KelvinKDX said:
Ivan ... maybe I missed it but I thought you were married.
Sorta... actually legally separated as of March 30th, 2006. Filed for divorce last week b/c in SC you have to wait a year before you can file unless you can prove "fault" and I do not have that proof.
It is all good. She left, she tore my heart out, yada yada yada. I am dating and seeing someone as "friends" but for 9 months I did not date and actually before I started dating I made one last attempt at reconciliation (even though under the circumstances everyone told me I should not have). She told me she hopes that I find someone and that was that. So, I consider myself single b/c the separation agreement says that we "live apart as if un-married" and we have separate maintenance and everything. We are just waiting on a court date to finalize everything for the state. Everything is ending amicably though.
I still help her with insurance and stuff. Funny thing... right now she is unemployed and about to lose her apartment... karma does come around :p
But, I still am friends with EVERYONE we were friends with before and her family still loves me and I get along with them very well (known them 14 years, 9 of those married).
As a matter of fact my sister-in-law gave birth today to a little boy and guess who was there? Me. The birth happened a lot quicker than they expected and I had brought breakfast up for her husband so I was the only "family" member there. She was dilated at 5 and 25 minutes later she was at a 10 and pushing.
I was the first "family" member to hold him and held him even before the nurses took him to get checked out :)
It was a GREAT day and something I am so happy to be a part of. Even though as soon as I get a court date I will be divorced from my ex, I will always be a part of that family and I feel blessed to know them and to be a part of that.
Ivan