Waited too long for this

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Hey,

My Dad died. But he didn't really just die. My Ol' Dad killed himself last Friday, the 7th. I guess he was tired of dealing with the bull****. He went out in his backyard and shot himself. Rio Rancho Police called my sister-in-law in Washington State and she called me about 7:00 AM. My little brother was in town, by chance or by fate, and we went down to UNMH thinking we'd be picking up Dad and bringing him home. But instead we got to say our last (or is that first) I love you’s; then had to pull the plug on the assisted breathing. Dad died about an hour later. Too tough to even kill himself quick, I guess, or maybe God just wanted my little brother to give his Jesus Lord and Savior speech.

We spent the week dealing with the stuff you would expect for such an event. Dad didn't want an obituary or a funeral or even a memorial service. He was specific about these things in his will. We had his body cremated and we spread his ashes at a little place up in Northern New Mexico, Charette Lake. We have a lot of family memories up there.

I figure I should have shared this little saga sooner, but the truth is I've only told two people, Rick Sieman and Ron Burton. Rick started Dirt Bike Magazine back in '71 (but you know that) and literally saved my life, I ain't bull****in' about that either. Ron is a good friend of mine from back in the glory days of dirt biking. So anyway...I don’t know how you tell this to your friends without sounding like a homo looking for sympathy. I have a lot of stuff to do since I’m the executor of the will. I guess that’s because I live in town and my other, smarter, brothers are out of town or are assholes.

Good thing Dad wasn’t a millionaire, I’d never go back to work.

I don’t know what really made Dad do it; his own stubbornness or the ****ty way health care makes the old geezers wait forever to have their problems addressed. Doctors should run health care, not insurance companies.

I’m bitter and guilty and I better stop now . . . had a few sips of wine you know. And maybe a few sips of that Crown Royal from my Dad’s cabinet; I gave it to him for Christmas and it wasn’t even opened yet. His house is empty and the painters started erasing his presence today.

Wes
 
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Wes, I can't imagine there is anything I can say that will be much comfort. You've got plenty of friends here and if we can help you deal with this in any way just say the word. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
 

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I've not had much interaction with you on here Wes, but I've read quite a bit of posts by you..

I'm with Chili.. Anything at all, we're here for you!
 
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I'd love to say all the right things... I honestly have no clue what would be right, right now?

I will say this much, I (and I'm sure everyone here) feel for you brother. Like Doug said, anything, which may not be much but there are many here that have had the pleasure of hanging with you... if there is anything, even if it's just listening, any way at all we can help...

I'm sorry Wes.
 

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Man Wes, I'm really sorry to hear about yor dad. I pray that he is at peace now and that you and your family find some peace, however you can.

Dave
 

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I'm very sorry to hear this Wes. You and your family will be in our thoughts - I cannot imagine what you must be going through. Just remember that if you need anything, as everyone else has said, we are all here for you.
 

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Man, that's a tough deal all around. As stated before, there probably ain't much any of us can say to make any real difference.

But know this: we're all here for you however, and we won't think you a homo for anything you might need.

your pal, Pred
 
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Thanks all y'all all. We're starting to get back to normal around here. It all seems like a long time ago now.
 

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I'm sorry about your loss! As everyone else has said, please let us know if or what we can do to help!? Even if it's just getting things out, and this is a great place to do it!

We may be spread about this world, but many of us will be going through the same thing and your family sounds a lot like my family.
 

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You have my condolences too Wes. My heart goes out to you and your family.

PK
 

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Damn Wes, we're here for ya' buddy.
 
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Wes.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Please accept my most sincere sympathy. You've got my phone number. Call any time.

Terry.