I understand your frustration. Why isn't there room for both kinds of racing?
It sure seems to me like cross country races are spread too thin anyway. It would be nice if both types of races could peacfully co-exist.
I realize that it is difficult to find land to race on. ORV parks that have Hare Scrambles usually fit the spectator friendly type course, and are ridden on so much that they do not have many technical sections that haven't been carved into a freeway of sorts.
My favorite type of riding is on mildly used, fairly difficult single track trail, up and down hills through the rocks and trees, across creek bottoms; and going as fast as I can go on it. One of my favorite riding areas that fit the above description, in my opinion, suffered serious damage this year when a enduro was staged across it. All the corners are now wider, the ruts deeper, the brush was cleared. In plain terms, I can ride the trail a lot faster now, but it's not nearly as much fun.
My point is that it tough to have your cake and eat it too. One extreme of cross country racing is the impromptu race with three or four of your buddies on your private, little known riding area. But that isn't really racing. You can stop when you get tired, and there are no trophies!
The other extreme is when you take off with 300 other bikes on a mass start on a big race. (What a rush!). Just don't expect your technical little single track trail on the second lap though.
The smaller the race (in terms of number of entries), the better the chance that the track will be fun to ride. But promoters won't make much money that way. Maybe some clubs or promotors will throw making money off to the side and stage a few races purely for the rider's delight every year.
Don't count on it.