Studboy said:
Make the jump longer than your bike.
I agree... a jump that is longer than your bike will allow you to 'glide' off... a short one 'throws' you off... You'll have to start small and work from there to see what works best for you. Some people are naturals at jumping, some never seem to get it, most of the rest of us are somewhere in between and it takes a while but it comes.
Don't work too far into your 'fear zone'. Considerable fear implies lack of confidence, lack of confidence is usually the result of your knowledge of your limited skills. Going beyond your skills results in lucky 'close ones' or injuries.
Once your confidence is up, it means your skills are too.
No matter what you think you look like doing big air, if you aren't confident, it shows, and you would look better catching smaller air. I have watched some pretty amatuer guys going for the big air.... It doesn't impress me, it makes me wince wondering when I will need to call 911.
Oh, and don't forget to have fun... lol... post a link to some pics when you get some jumps built