I hate to hear you are having a period of bad luck.
I trust you have the altogether to make the better of it, rather than the worse.
So easy to do the latter. But you have complete control of how this whole thing will effect you.
It blows for sure...but such is life.
We see adversity all the time, some let it devestate them...others continue living and doing the best they can with what they got.
A truely good man cannot be made a bad man, unless of course he allows it so.
Sounds to me like she is being *%(tty. In that case you are never going to come out on top financially unless she lets you. States are simply too bias towards the female.
If there were things said in chambers that have hosed your position at all, which happens all the time, I would suggest that you ask the judge if he has a CASA group working in or around his court.
The CASA folks are advocates that work directly for a court. They will look into the whole matter, visiting you your wife, kids, schools, neighbors, doctors, inlaws, outlaws, or whomever they need to to get the whole unbiased picture of your situation.
These folks have signed court orders that the judges give them and they are the types to call up and tell you they are outside in your driveway, can they come in?
Usually these folks answer only to a judge and are not at all biased for one side or another. Too many times the best lawyer and the most money wins, no matter if it's the side that was best for the childs interests. The CASA system was designed specifically to keep that from happening. They truely can effect how the judges ruling comes down and how it's structured.
I got my two girls when I got divorced 20 years ago.
The only way I swung it was to convince their mother that it was best for all concerned if they stayed with me. Hollerin and yellin didn't go far at all. I had to use phsycology on the sorry hag...errr...their mother.
She wised up years later when one of her boyfriends told her to get the kids (and the child support of course). The lady judge was not impressed with her at that point, denied her request, and raised HER child support to me. (gotta love it)
My best to you and the kids, Jay.
I trust you have the altogether to make the better of it, rather than the worse.
So easy to do the latter. But you have complete control of how this whole thing will effect you.
It blows for sure...but such is life.
We see adversity all the time, some let it devestate them...others continue living and doing the best they can with what they got.
A truely good man cannot be made a bad man, unless of course he allows it so.
Sounds to me like she is being *%(tty. In that case you are never going to come out on top financially unless she lets you. States are simply too bias towards the female.
If there were things said in chambers that have hosed your position at all, which happens all the time, I would suggest that you ask the judge if he has a CASA group working in or around his court.
The CASA folks are advocates that work directly for a court. They will look into the whole matter, visiting you your wife, kids, schools, neighbors, doctors, inlaws, outlaws, or whomever they need to to get the whole unbiased picture of your situation.
These folks have signed court orders that the judges give them and they are the types to call up and tell you they are outside in your driveway, can they come in?
Usually these folks answer only to a judge and are not at all biased for one side or another. Too many times the best lawyer and the most money wins, no matter if it's the side that was best for the childs interests. The CASA system was designed specifically to keep that from happening. They truely can effect how the judges ruling comes down and how it's structured.
I got my two girls when I got divorced 20 years ago.
The only way I swung it was to convince their mother that it was best for all concerned if they stayed with me. Hollerin and yellin didn't go far at all. I had to use phsycology on the sorry hag...errr...their mother.
She wised up years later when one of her boyfriends told her to get the kids (and the child support of course). The lady judge was not impressed with her at that point, denied her request, and raised HER child support to me. (gotta love it)
My best to you and the kids, Jay.
