UPDATE
after much running around, much jetting changes, and much much much searching for info i finally shatter-shot the problems into submission.
problems:
1 reeds looked fine, but were not tight
2 timing was retarded 5 degrees (estimate)
3 premix was poor quality oil (i learned i learned, forgive me!)
4 trash in the intake port
5 arrestor was broken inside, resulting in 1/2 the air flow of a good pipe
remedies:
1 new boyesen reeds for the Rad Valve, which has no markings on it, so it took some googling to figure out why my reed cage wasn't like all the other 200 /220's reed cages.
2 reset timing to 5 degrees advanced (most advanced STOCK marking)
3 changed to lucas semi synthetic premix oil, at 40:1
4 cleaned that out, after pulling the cylinder and finding it
5 changed to a ProCircuit stainless rev pipe arrestor
finalities:
bike has not fouled a NGK BR8ES plug yet. it starts easily, idles smoothly (i keep my idle a little low to be quieter during warm-up) and pulls very nicely from idle up to WOT. KIPS is functioning normally, opening as it should to bring on the rush of top end power.
this is the results on yesterday's street ride:

which is pretty good, but still not perfect. i'll pull a plug after some woods riding and see how it compares.
my only complaint now is the stuttering, or what i've seen described by others as "four stroking" the bike does while at constant throttle. if there is the slightest load (uphill, too tall a gear, slight acceleration) the bike will smooth out instead of putttaputtaputta. if this is a characteristic of the kdx, i'll live with it. maybe i should go up a tooth on the front sprocket to give it a small load and smooth things out ?
yesterday I spooned on some old Avon Distanzias, and found they are a fantastically smooth running street tire. there is a gymkhana this saturday in Falkville, AL, and I plan to take the drz400 and the kdx220 to play at the event. i've only ridden the bike in shorts so far, so the lean angles have been very very mild. i'll break out my leathers for saturday, and get silly. ;-)
the test ride with the distanzias was short, smooth, and i only acclerated to around 65mph while on a major highway, you can see the RED section indicating higher speed, and the cooler blues/greens indicating slower, neighborhood-friendly slower speeds:
i'm really impressed with the manageable power of the kdx while in street trim. first gear is useless in street mode, but that's easily rectified, just change to second or third and start off smoothly ;-)
i've got to say, after all this mess, the kdx is still my favorite bike to pull out of the garage. it helps that it's street legal (tagged) and almost 100 lbs lighter than my drz.
now, it has me thinking i might pick up a worn out kdx or rmx and supermoto it with gs500 wheels.
end of rambling, the bike is good.
thank you dirtrider members, for sooo much :)