I also had my cylinder chemically stripped during the replating process. All surfaces were very rough, and had some kind of very fine particles on them which made it feel very coarse, including head and base gasket surfaces, which pissed me off. Anyway, I thoroughly washed the cylinder with soap and water and a brush. I then used a gun cleaning rod with wirebrush attachment to ream all KIPS passages. I also had to do some work with a dremel tool because the left-side kips valve was catching on the edge of resonator passage (which was not the case before replating). BTW, my manual says that the o-ring should be greased as opposed to oiled.
As far as abrupt opening/closing goes: if you look at the left side of the main KIPS rod, you'll notice that it has a cam-like shape. There is a spring-loaded steel ball that presses against this cam shape. As far as I can tell, the purpose of it is to keep the KIPS either completely closed or completely open. In other words, I think "abruptness" is part of this KIPS system by design.
BTW, Karl, how did you determine that your KIPS opens late and abruptly? Did you hook up a tach, remove kips actoator arm cover, and observe the actuator arm?