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[QUOTE="Detonator, post: 842871, member: 44104"]
This is a great post. There are, unfortunately, such things as "fairweather friends," or people whose affinity for you is in the context of something you do for them.

While it's true that maybe his people skills are just a little rough around the edges, or you aren't teaching him how to treat you (I'm guilty of that, too), it sounds like this accident has really been an opportunity for him to show his true colours. Just by the sense of your words, I get the impression that you would treat a stranger better than your friend treated you.

I guess the easy response is to say "flush him...get another friend," but that's difficult for kind people to do. The real test is to raise the bar a bit; let him call you, instead of the inverse. Be too busy to do things for him for a while. Find a way for him to do you a favour with no strings attached. If he can't step it up, it won't be hard to sever the ties...just stop calling/do things for him, and he'll fade away.
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