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Message: [QUOTE="Michelle, post: 843304, member: 16598"] Earlier this year my husband crashed & broke his back. None of us knew how bad it was as he told us he was fine & just winded. Friends helped him up, walked him back to the road, another friend went back, got his ute & we headed back to the cars. We were five minutes into our day (if that). We had a lot to do to organise an upcoming enduro. A friend then loaded both mine & Henk's bikes, another friend drove about 10 minutes to get cellphone coverage to call an ambulance (Henk had worked out he couldn't sit long enough for us to go to a doctor). Yes, we had plenty of laughs at Henk's expense in the meantime, but we were still under the impression he was badly winded. A couple of other friends carried on riding while we were waiting for the ambulance as Henk wanted them to go look at a couple of things and didn't want everyone's day ruined. When we were finally at the hospital, we kept getting phone calls to see how the patient was faring and so had to make umpteen phone calls when we finally had the diagnosis (unbelief was an understatement). We all know what Henk's like & knew it must be pretty bad for him to be complaining & saying he couldn't walk/sit whatever. He'd broken his hand earlier in the year & had carried on riding for a bit before deciding to go & get some ice on it - we also went riding the next day. He finally figured it out when he went to the doctors a couple of days later. We'll all cut our riding day short to help a friend out - what's important? You can always (hopefully) go riding another day, but you can't always find a good friend. I still remember a person we'd met one day crashing & saying he was sore. He didn't want us to stop riding (he'd broken his collarbone we found out later - hey, we're not doctors & don't always know what's wrong) and as we didn't really know him (we'd met him for all of five minutes) didn't argue the point. I still feel a bit guilty about that & it's been 5-6 years. Our friends all mock each other continuously and possibly if you listened you'd think we all hate each other but that's just the way we are. If any one of them phoned up asking for help with something, we'd drop whatever we were doing & go help. We also know it works both ways. Only one of these friends we've had since before we started riding, the rest are all guys/gals we've met through riding. It's fine to joke about injuries once they're over & done with & while you're helping someone out, but not to just let them get on with everything on their own - that sux. There are plenty of really neat people out there just waiting to find a good friend they can rely on for help & it won't be a one way street. As someone said, talk to him but in all honesty, I don't think he'd really give a damn & will just be upset at losing his mechanic rather than losing a friend. Good luck & it'll work out for you :) [/QUOTE]

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