1. You can get one from your friendly local dealer, too. You gotta get one.
2. Keep the anti-vibration properties of your existing bushings...just 'reset' them. Take the studs out, remove the bushings, put them back in. Get a one piece top clamp (fredette has 'em) to reduce if not eliminate this problem in the future.
3. 'I'm assuming there's a majority that agrees one brand is the best.' You're kidding, right??
Masskdx is right. Maxima SuperM 40:1 is a good choice. Buy it in the 'large' size from, say, rocky mountain. You can get 4x64oz bottles for $44 (+s&h)!!
4. Hi octane fuel is required. 91 octane I believe is the minimum requirement.
5. Re-jet your bike!! It's the biggest 'bang' for the least amount of bucks you can get! A ton of info about jetting on this forum.
Check CDave's site:
http://justkdx.dirtrider.net
..for hopup options, jetting info etc. Can't miss it!!