Between a rock and a hard place...

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spanky250

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I am in the difficult position of having my wife's best friend making overt passes at me, and all but outright asking me for, well, you know...I have never been in a spot like this, and I don't know how to deal with it. Do I tell, and break up a long-time friendship? Do I ignore it and hope it will go away? If I do tell, will I be believed, or be seen as the bad guy in this? I have told her there is no chance of me cheating on my wife, and she just laughs and tells me she will win me over with her wiley ways. Why do people do things like this, putting others in very difficult positions???:o
 

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I think Josh has been spending too much time clubing!!!

Feel flattered, and tell her in no uncertian terms your not interested and if that if she persisits you will tell your wife.
 

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Do I tell, and break up a long-time friendship?
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Which long-time friendship are you worried about most? Yours with your wife or your wife and her back stabbing friend? Do what your heart tells you. Video one of the overt come-ons and let your wife just happen to find it in the VCR. Good luck, I don't envy you at all.
 
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I'm with BSWIFT, I don't envy you at all. She could get really POed, and give your wife the exact opposite of what you just told us. Taping one of these conversations wouldn't be a bad idea, to keep your butt clean. Even though you didn't do anything. So you say:p Or hide your wifes car, and hide your wife in the house where she can hear, and have a little talk with her so called friend. Just do something before your wife finds out on her own:eek: Or her friend gets mad at you and goes to your wife with a 180:scream: That would suck bad
 
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Friendship??The old saying with friends like those who needs enemies fits pretty nicely. Tell your wife ASAP
the longer you wait to tell her the more trouble this could cause you. She will defenatly not appreciate being kept out of this loop for any period of time! Besides you don't want your wife hanging around with someone with such low moral standards.
 
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Sorry Spanky, but if my gf's best friend ever came on to me, my gf would be the first to know. There is now way in HELL that a real friend should act like this. If I have to be the evil, friendship breaker upper guy in order for my gf to see whats really going on, well I can live with that.
 
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I'm with the other guys. Tell your wife ASAP. It's her you are interested in protecting (and your piece of mind). She will figure out the best way to have YOU handle it.

Worst case scenario, tell her you're gay, and the marriage is a sham, you're just biding your time until you die from the HIV / AIDS you aquired in prison... :eek: "I've got a nasty rash-infection now baby, but as soon as the scabs fall off, it's you and ME"... :scream:

That should nip it in the bud for ya.
 

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Way I see it...
If your wife and this gal are very best friends, then it's a one sided affair if this girls is hitting on you. I mean, she really isn't your wifes friend or she would not act like that.

OR....she really is your wifes best friend, and in that case....you are being set-up my friend!:)

My advise is to, in either instance, tell your wife as soon as you can. Throw lots of butter on it too...but I can tell you from experience...if you are being set-up, then your wife has a reason to do this. Maybe you should go to confession real quick before you tell her, make sure you are squeaky clean first!:D It may be a bumpy ride, best of luck my friend! :p
 
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I'd let the wife know something's up too, maybe by saying something like.."honey, do you think your friend, insert-name-here would like my pal insert-other-name-here?". Or something else a bit more subtle than leaving an incriminating video lying around...jmo :).
 
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I would have to agree with most of the responces so far. You should avoid all one on one contact with this woman. She is not your wife's friend, I would say that she is envious of your wife and all that she has. She is out to destroy your family enough said. She may not even truely want to be with you (or you may melt her butter), she may just want to prove that she can have you to feed her ego and prove her self better then your wife. You know your relationship better then anybody, so you need to weigh your actions.
 
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Jaybird- I would have never thought of the 'test' angle-that's agood one.
Spanky-All the advice about talking to your wife ASAP is the best. She needs to know that nothing or no one matters to you more than her.If this is a 'test', at the very least you'll have passed. The only bad I can see is that if she's known all along, and you've taken awhile to confide in her,well.......I hope you can be real convincing.
Most wives can tell when we're lying, so hopefully she'll know when you're being honest and truthful.:D
 
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spanky250

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Originally posted by Wraith
She could get really POed, and give your wife the exact opposite of what you just told us. Even though you didn't do anything. That would suck bad
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That is exactly what I am afraid of. These two are inseperable long-time friends, and I am afraid that she could convince my wife that I am lying, because, after all, men are pigs, right? Then where does that leave me? With a rabbit boiling on my stove?:eek:
 
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spanky250

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Originally posted by joshman211
Why are you asking chick questions on a dirt bike forum. Id say boink your friend and dump your other. Then buy your self an 02 cr250 that should make all problems go away. :)
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I posted this in the flame forum, thought it would be an appropriate flame. Great advice, I really want to throw away a 10 year marriage (with two great kids :) ) over some little tramp. Why didn't I think of that?:think
 
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"rabbit boiling on the stove..." ROTFL!!!!
You really need to make sure you're never, never , alone with this girl. If she comes by your house, make sure you stay outside, and one of your kids is always present. (This may be a good time to wrench on your bike.)
You don't want to even give the appearance to your neighbors that anything even could be going on.(I learned this from my wifes best friend--if my wife wasn't home she would not come in. I thought that was very cool!):)
 

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If your best friend was coming on to your wife, would you want her to tell you?:think
 

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Okay, time for someone to be the sick-o. What if they're in cahoots, but in a good way? :o

Geesh -- I think I need to get out more. :silly:
 

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Originally posted by LongTime
What if they're in cahoots, but in a good way? :o
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That only happens on Cinemax. ;)
 

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Just give your wifes friend an ultimatum-she stops NOW or you tell your wife and the hussy looses her best friend.Fight fire with fire if you do nothing she will think you are really secretly enjoying the attention.
 
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spanky250

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The more I think about it, the more I realize you are right, marcus. I had just been blowing her advances off, hoping she would get the message, but she apparently either doesn't take the hint, or it is some kind of challenge for her to see if she can get me between the sheets despite my unwillingness. The problem that I see with this type of ultimatum is that it doesn't erase the passes she has already made. I am still unsure as to whether or not I should just tell my wife anyway, just so there are no skeletons left in the closet.
 
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Spanky, are you a Ex-Chip'n'dale and forgot to tell us? I bet this girl wants you because of your hidden dancing skills...
 
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LT, I think you should throw in some Hail Marys along with a double dose of Riddelin. ;) Pervert. Now I know why they call it Skin-a-max.:eek:

joshman you got your five minutes of fame, now get lost.
 
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spanky250

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Originally posted by Hucker
Spanky, are you a Ex-Chip'n'dale and forgot to tell us? I bet this girl wants you because of your hidden dancing skills...
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Nope, I'm definitely not a dancer or a model, just an ordinary joe. I'm sure my wife gossips to her friend about the fun we have, so maybe it's my wifes' fault???:think I wonder if I could make that one fly....:think :confused:
 
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Skeletons in the closet?? From your description of the situation you have none to worry about, but if you have even one little one kicking around you may be in for a bumpy ride my friend(the gals don't seem to like those bones much/as far as that goes us guys aren't to fond of them either). Still IMO honesty is the best policy-this kind of stress will age you quick.

Trust is hard to gain easy to lose, and almost impossible to get back.
 
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