Between a rock and a hard place...

[XRpredator]

I've been thinkin' (and that's dangerous sometimes! :eek: ) that maybe your little woman owes you flowers (or at least a new back tire) and a nice dinner out!

You were the good boy, so you should get the rewards!

That's my opinion anyway . . . for what it's worth.

 

[MikeT]

I still vote for the tire! ;)

 

[RM_guy]

After following this a while I wonder if she might have been testing you Spanky. :think You seem like a real stand up kind a guy but could there have been something you said or did that may have gotten her thinking?

 

[gospeedracer]

I certainly hope that is not the case Spanky. I know for me that would be a sure fire relationship ender! If someone didn't trust me without cause and tried to "test" me for the sake of easing their mind, I would be PO'd! If I found out, that person had better head for the hills! :p Insecurity without cause is a very ugly thing in my book!

 

[RM_guy]

I hope I’m not right too. I figured it might be worth throwing out there though. It certainly can’t be worse than the “threesome in the making” theories :)

 

[XRpredator]

Originally posted by RM_guy
. . . can’t be worse than the “threesome in the making” theories :)

You gotta watch out for those as well. Sometimes the little woman may bring that up just to see how, er, "satisfied" you are with the relationship.

What a tangled web we weave . . . :think

 

[JuliusPleaser]

Originally posted by gospeedracer
Insecurity without cause is a very ugly thing in my book!

Mine too. My last relationship was all ate up with ugly. :(

 

[IBWFO]

I was in the same boat. Sortof. Girlfriends best friend is staying at our house. My girlfriend goes to work and her friend comes in the bedroom and tries to start something, to the point of being totally "nekid". I refrained and went and took a shower, locked the door and told her to be gone when I got out.
My girlfriend was her maid of honor!!!!
Thankfully she lives in another state. I have never told my girlfriend but I won't allow her to stay at our house anymore and my girlfriend can't figure out why. I've been close to telling her, but still have not.
Regards

 

[gospeedracer]

Sorry to get a bit off topic here but I just wanted to say Julius, you seem like a really nice guy, despite your shyness at DW. ;) You're attractive and funny as all hell. I have the utmost confidence you will eventually recover from your last relationship. :)

Hey, too bad you don't live here. I have a gorgeous, single, co-worker you might like. :)

 

[gospeedracer]

Originally posted by Big Tuna
I'm just wonder'n why none of the ladies devulged any info? It would have been nice to hear a female perspective on the situation.

Okay, you guys want some honest female insight on this type of situation? It probably won't make me too popular and some may disagree but some women just tend to have this sort of ‘disease’ if you will, called “igottahavewhatsnotmineous” where as the 'unobtainable' becomes very desirable. If you know you can't have it, it just makes the 'challenge' all the more intriguing. Something snaps in these women’s brains and the ‘disease’ takes over. Now I’m not saying that ALL women are this way, most likely only a small percentage, but I have seen it time and time again (not just on Cinemax either) ;) and I have experienced this myself plenty in my ‘younger’ days. In 5th grade I stole a girls’ boyfriend simply because I wanted what she had. I don’t know what exactly triggers this in some women but I can tell you that it can diminish with age as well as fade if said women have the love of a good man. :)

 

[justql]

Good explanation GSR.:)

 

[spanky250]

I don't think my wife was testing me (will I ever know the truth about a woman's thoughts?:think ). I think the only person doing any testing was the woman that was testing to see if she could start some mischief. So, would you say I passed her test, or failed it?:think ;)

 

[JuliusPleaser]

Thanks for the vote of confidence, Aimee. I AM ready to get on with it. One more week 'til our final court appearance. C'monnnnn, JUSTICE!

How far is it to Santa Barbara? I never met a gorgeous single woman that I didn't like... :confused:

Spanky, you are a truly good guy. Most of the men I know have affairs on a regular basis. That's something that I will never understand. If you wanna sleep around, why not be honest about it? Gotta eat your cake and have it too? Selfish bas**rds!

 

[spanky250]

Originally posted by Julius Pleaser
Most of the men I know have affairs on a regular basis. That's something that I will never understand.

I don't understand it either. Why did they get married in the first place if they don't have the integrity or the moral fortitude to be faithful to their spouse? This applies to women and men alike. If I ever got to the point that I could no longer be faithful to my wife, then I would know that the marriage was at an end, because I must have lost the integrity to honor the commitment that I made before God and men. My word, and my ability to keep it, and to be honest with myself and those around me, are things that I pride myself in, and I hope the day never comes that I lose those things.

 

[JPIVEY]

Well Spanky, It does'nt matter if was a test or not, you handled it the right way :cool:

 

[ktmboy]

Speedy- I've always had a theory about that, but I've never heard a woman say it: there are women out there that purposely hit on married men because they feel if they can get him to leave his wife for her, (or even cheat on her), then they (the seductress) must be that much more special/desirable.
I've heard others say that it's also because there could be no strings attatched.

 

[KC_BigDog_51]

Originally posted by gospeedracer


KC, were you perhaps a woman in your former life? ;)

I just called Ms. Clairie's physcic hotline and she told me all the secrets to figuring out woman.

Really though, I just thought to myself, what if the roles were reversed and a few days after my wife told me my best friend was comming on to her that she bought me the new Yamaha of Troy graphics kit I have been wanting or a gift certificate for an Eric Gorr big bore kit. Those are the questions I would have started asking myself. It's not rocket science if you break it down to a level us men can relate to.

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by Julius Pleaser

Most of the men I know have affairs on a regular basis.

You're hangin' with the wrong crowd.:eek: :)

 

[JeffK]

About the flowers, gifts, special dinners... I agree with KC on this one - It would look suspicious.. give it a week or two for things to chill then sweep her off of her feet (for no reason).

Now back to the storyline... So you told your wife and she wasn't upset with you because she trusts you. WTG.. now she is going to have that 'talk' with her friend about what she has been up to. So what happened with that? Are they still friends?

 

[JuliusPleaser]

Originally posted by Vic


You're hangin' with the wrong crowd.:eek: :)

They're clients. I DID have a friend who made it a point to sleep with every woman he could. I asked him once what he would do if his wife caught him. His reply: "She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer." They had only been married for 8 months, and he had an affair with the new wife while he was still married to the old one. :silly:

I decided (last New Year's Eve) to remove all the losers from my life. I did it, and I wound up with very few friends.

Spanky, give us an epilogue. We need closure... ;)

 

[bsmith]

Julius, from what I can see, this looks to be a pretty good crowd to hang around with.
I've read a few post that make me think, but in general just a good group of people.

 

[70 marlin]

JP I can relate to throwing the trash out !

Get to a certain age, you really need to have some kind of standards. just to keep the youngin's on the right path!

 

[JuliusPleaser]

bsmith, this is a GREAT group of people. I've been hanging around here for close to two years. I was here for a while as "XR Lifer". After Bundu pointed out how incredibly boring my screenname was, I came back as JP. :p
There have been a few troublemakers, but for the most part, we all get along quite well. That's amazing, considering the sheer # of members and the differences in philosophy. Just don't call anyone a "goober" and you'll be fine.

Marlin, I've always had the same standards. I've not always lived by them, but they've always been there. I'm optimistic to a fault, and I've always thought that everyone is basically good. I've learned (the hard way) that lots of people are inherently evil, and that no amount of therapy, drugs,punishment, tolerance, patience or forgiveness will EVER change that basic flaw.

I've come to the conclusion that evil is hereditary.

 

[bsmith]

If "KR Lifer" is boring then I guess I must be putting folks to sleep:D

 

[MikeT]

What happened Spanky?