Originally posted by Ol'89r
use very little rear brake, only enough to stabilize the bike.
at first it may seem that the rear brake is only there to slow the rear wheel down, but there is another function. when you apply the rear brake at high speed, you create what is known as chain torque reaction. this force makes the rear suspension 'squat' downwards, and in turn makes the bike more stable under heavy braking. it also lifts some weight off the front wheel, so you can also apply even more pressure to the front brake leaver.
when i first started riding motorbikes, i had a really hard time using the rear brake, so i know how you feel GETMETOCA. i think my biggest problem was trying to feel the leaver while wearing heavy dirt bike boots. GMX made a good suggestion about trying different footwear while practicing in a field, and i would try that if i was you, but don't get too comfortable with them or you might find it hard to use boots again.
thinking back, the only thing that really helped me was working hard at the problem and spending alot of time doing basic drills. slowing down only using your back brake sounds like a great one to me, and you can try to find how much pressure you can apply before the wheel locks up. take the wheel to lock up, then release some pressure until it is free again, and so on. do this a few times, and then do something else like cornering or figure 8's for a few minutes, then go back to the braking drills. keep it mixed up so you don't get bored, or your mind will start to wonder and you won't get the full benifit out of the drill.