The simple answer would be "no". With the differences in your weights springs alone would have to be different for an "ideal" setup. That said, it's not like the bike would be unridable for him if set up for you, just not "ideal".
As far as the steering damper goes, we are talking about two totally separate things here. No amount of steering damping will reduce a harsh fork. But, many guys run dampers even with properly setup suspension. I've never tried a damper, but it's something that I would like to try someday.