he's not gonna make it

[firecracker22]

A few months ago I posted about a friend who suddenly found out he had cancer. Well, in the months between then and now, he's gone uphill and down. The tumors in his head, neck, chest, stomach and kidneys have all shrank or gone away entirely. But the one(s?) in his lungs were not responding. They tried different types of chemo, and for the last month or so it started to work--but the treatments themselves were making him too sick to do anything. He went into the hospital about a week ago, and they drained almost a gallon of fluid, and he started to feel better. Yesterday he went into the ICU and they found a new tumor--probably inoperable, they don't know yet--in his throat. He has been sedated ever since.

They've given him two weeks. Hopefully he will wake up in a few days so I can go see him, I don't think I could handle seeing him unconscious.

I've never lost anyone before, and it looks like my streak of luck has ended.

 

[Papakeith]

sorry to hear about your friend. The best we can do is offer our prayers and support. You and your friend have both.

 

[rickyd]

Keep your head up, My thoughts and prayers too you and your freind.. I hope you get too make the visit, unconcious or not, i think he would appreciate it..
Rick

 

[kmccune]

Make the visit, as said above I'm sure that he would appreciate it. Also you may regret not going in years to come. Both of you will be in my prayers as well.

 

Kevin

 

[GETMETOCA]

Originally posted by rickyd
make the visit, unconcious or not, i think he would appreciate it.. 

Most definitely make the visit.  You'll be a lot more at peace with the situation once you do and it will mean more to him than you know.

 

[MXSparx]

Sorry to hear about your friend. My bosses wife lost a similar battle this past summer. Long drawn out illnesses are tuff.

Thoughts and prayers from the right coast.

 

[truespode]

Make the visit.

Sorry to hear this.

Ivan

 

[XR3J]

Go visit him.  I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

Jerry

 

[blackhawk468]

:( Sorry to hear.

 

[Kav]

FC, I'm very sorry to hear about your friend, at least you have a chance to say goodby.
:(

 

[Treejumper]

Sorry about the bad news, its always hard to lose someone.

 

[squeaky]

I am so sorry to hear this. Definetely make the visit, it may hurt to see him unconscious now, but you'll regret it in the long run if you don't go. If you do go, it'll help ease your mind a bit.

You and your friend are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Tony Eeds]

FC ... go to visit him even if he is not conscious. He will know you are there. This is very important for both of you, take it from somebody that has buried way too many people. May my prayers be with you both.

 

[BSWIFT]

I'll echo what Tony said.  Some blessing are not pleasant but you must be there for the both of you.

 

[WaltCMoto]

Sorry about your bud, Ill be keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers

 

[SirThumper]

Sorry to hear about your friend Sharla. Don't think, that it wouldn't matter if you went to see him while his is sedated. It matters to you, you can handle it. Be strong.

 

[nephron]

Another 'sorry to hear' from me. My best wishes to you and your visit.

 

[Patman]

What Tony said :thumb:

Even if you don't think he'll know you were or were not there you will.

 

[BunduBasher]

Sorry to hear this FC22 - will say a prayer.

Alan

 

[LoriKTM]

Sorry about your friend, Sharla.  :(

Make the visit-- tough to do, but you'd regret it if you didn't go.

 

[Senior KX Rider]

Very sorry to hear about your friend Sharla

 

[Milk]

Sucks Sharla and Im sorry.

I lost a friend in July and she was only 28. Dam nthe cancer.

I didnt go see her in her final days because she wasnt the same person at all. I wanted to remember her for the strong woman she was at her best, not what she was at the end. I think its a hard choice, but its yours. I have no regrets for not seeing her in her final days. I said my goodbyes at her funeral.

 

[Chili]

Very sorry to hear this Sharla. I hope you can find a way to get through this that works for both of you.

 

[Danman]

Cancer is very hard to deal with. I sorry to hear of you pain. You will be in my thoughs. :(

 

[firecracker22]

Thanks everybody.

I went to the hospital today. Brian woke up sometime early today or last night, according to a friend who called his dad. I convinced the ICU nurses to let me in--even though I told them I was his cousin, at first they said only close family, then they gave in. His dad was there for a little while but left after a few minutes. I stayed for about an hour. He was awake, sort of, but not very alert. They've got him pumped full of sedatives and painkillers and God knows what else. He's on a respirator, so he can't talk around the tube in his throat. He opened his eyes when I said hi and seemed to recognize me. I talked to him a little bit, and just sat there for a little bit. Sniffling the whole time. Finally he seemed to fall all the way asleep so I left. His doctor came in for a few minutes before that, and said that they might try to take the tube out of his mouth tomorrow if he is strong enough to breathe on his own. We can only cross our fingers. I'll be going back tomorrow.