Getting along with the opposite sex

[firecracker22]

Now I have read—and been told—that men don’t talk about stuff to commiserate, they only talk about things to FIX a problem. That’s why you don’t say “I feel fat today” to a man because he will say “So why don’t you go on a diet?” when your girlfriends will say “I know how you feel.”

Now apparently that rule isn’t hard and fast. One notable exception is if you are trying to discuss problems within a relationship—then men don’t want to discuss them, fix them, or admit they exist. How in the HELL do you expect something to run forever if you don’t work on it? Your bike won’t fix itself, why should a relationship? Plus, like a loose part, the problem will only get worse if you ignore it.

IS there a way to discuss things with a man without putting him on the defensive?

 

[LWilson250]

Umm, no.

Lee W.

 

[firecracker22]

Thanks, bud. That helps SO much.

Does bludgeoning him with a sawed off baseball bat work? I'll try that instead, if it would be effective.

 

[Okiewan]

Originally posted by firecracker22
Does bludgeoning him with a sawed off baseball bat work? I'll try that instead, if it would be effective.

Yes.

 

[firecracker22]

So is this like potty training a puppy? Just beat the hell out of him until he remembers the lesson? How many beatings does it take? Do I have to stop when he shows signs of learning or can I continue until my frustrations are gone?

 

[marcusgunby]

You see FC you have classic signs of a woman in denail, how could you have man problems when the man(doesnt matter who he is BTW)is perfect so there is no need to discuss realtionship problems, as they only exist in your mind:)

 

[70 marlin]

Some times you can over tune your bike! when your better off just going for a nice ride. as for the puppy thing if use the news paper bit to much, some time when you go get the paper to read you'll have puppy pee by the door.

 

[yzeater]

Originally posted by firecracker22
Just beat the hell out of him until he remembers the lesson?

Women scare me

 

[Jaybird]

LOL....trust me, yzeater...be very afraid!

 

[YZ Joust]

All you need to remember is that we (men) need the following three things and we are fine:

SEX
SILENCE
SUPPER

Anything else you're pushing your luck...... We don't believe there is something philosophical about everything that happens in life..... Just like the saying $@#@ happens, there is truth in this saying..... Just stick w/ the 3S' and you'll be fine.... And try not to set us up w/ the age old question, "Do I look fat to you?" Why must we be tested???? ;)

 

[Vic]

I know how you feel. :scream:

BTW- Maybe you should go on a diet. :moon: :D

 

[Jaybird]

Hey, Joust....
What does it mean when a man gets none of the three?

 

[zcookie49]

Originally posted by firecracker22
So is this like potty training a puppy? Just beat the hell out of him until he remembers the lesson?

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Sort of. I know that if I am in the Dog House for the same thing more than once, I take notice.
But my girl knows she is better off talking to her girlfriends about those type of things. I still hear it all the time, I just say what she wants to hear, if she keeps asking the same question, I just start doing something else or walk into another room.
Men and Women can talk, but Basically guys talk shop, women go into depth. I dont know how many times a question from the lil lady will be beaten down by her, when she looks at me and I have that glazed look on my face, its not too much longer that I hear her in the bedroom on the phone talking to her girlfriend about it, usually an hour. then my face looks like this -> :)
If its a serious issue, I will have an attention span, like someone is in the hospital or something. But once I hear "do you like this color eye shadow?".
bye bye :uh:

 

[YZ Joust]

Originally posted by Jaybird
Hey, Joust....
What does it mean when a man gets none of the three?

Well, sometimes you just gotta move on..... But there are benefits to moving on..... :aj: Click here for example

 

[WoodsRider]

Like I posted in another thread...

Show up naked.

Bring beer.

That'll get our attention... at least until Sportscenter comes on. :scream:

 

[Jaybird]

LOL!!!
Ah, to be single again........:)

I remember when I was a kid, my dad had his 62 harley in pieces on the kitchen table and floor for several weeks.....mom and dad were divorced when I was 9. :)

 

[Rooster]

discuss problems within a relationship

Better get used to it, that's how it works. You show me a relationship without problems, and I'll show you a couple that is lying through their teeth.

So is this like potty training a puppy? Just beat the hell out of him until he remembers the lesson?

Training? This does not sound so good.

Let's remember the basics about men, women and partner selection.

1) Men choose their women, hoping that the woman will never change. (i.e. weight, hair length, love drive, etc.)
2) Women choose thier men, hoping to change that man. (i.e. slob like qualities, belching, farting, beer guzzling etc.)
3) Neither gets what they hope for.

If you want some in depth help with your dilemna, perhaps you should get to the point. Wherein doth the problem lie, firecracker? What is it this man needs to be "trained" on. What has he done to require a "bludgeoning" to bring him to his senses.

:p

 

[YZ Joust]

Firecracker22"How in the HELL do you expect something to run forever if you don’t work on it?"

We get a new one if it becomes a problem..... J/K :p

 

[Lemming]

Positive reinforcement works better than negative, so do as Woodsy says.

 

[MrLuckey]

Jaybird - So was the divorce before or after the Harley in the kitchen?

YZ Joust - Thanks for the coffee on the keyboard LMAO

RoosteR13 - You are falling into a trap. Do NOT try to reason with a female.
Step away from the keyboard before its too late :debil:

YZeater - Me too buddy, me too!

Vic - It was nice having you around while it lasted. Try to log on from the hospital when you come to :)

WoodsRider - :aj:

Truthfully though - if its that tough maybe he's just not the right one?

 

[Old CR goat]

Jaybird wants to know
Hey, Joust....
What does it mean when a man gets none of the three?

It means He's married. :think:

 

[Rooster]

TTR - trust me buddy, that was not an attempt at reason, that was a sarcastic jab to the rib cage! :eek:

I learned not to try reasoning with a female a few years back. I still have no idea what the heck happened. There was a lot of swearing, slamming doors, crying, suitcases, squealing tires, then suddenly a real empty house.......and a sherrif with some sort of disolwhodamakai papers for me to sign :eek:

 

[YZ Joust]

TTR Guy YZ Joust - Thanks for the coffee on the keyboard LMAO

Just trying to do my part.... I'm glad to see I'm not the only one w/ coffee spewing from my nose when I get on this site..... ;)

 

[LoriKTM]

Hmm...typical male responses. Glad to see that the male DRN constituent is typical of society in general! ;)

So, can you provide a little detail, FC? Don't mean to be too nosy, but different situations require different tactics. Is it a money thing, a free-time thing, a work thing, etc? We might be able to help, that is if you can get beyond all the digital noise on this thread!

 

[Bruce]

Oh Firecracker22, there is so much to read, can I at least watch tv while I read your post...

Note, how my wife will not let me multi-task when we are having a discussion... usually comprised of me listening. No, I mean really listening, not just hearing... yes there is a big difference. I'm sorry honey... (practicing for when I get home). If I could just get PMS once to know what its like...